Workshop 001 - Self-Revealing
Self-Revealing
- update Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 11:12pm
How It Came To Be
Having a genuine interest in knowing how my deceiving Kathy came about,
I began dismantling My Dishonesty Engine (MDE). This process was not
going to be easy. After all, my Prevarication Protection Alarm (PPA)
was going to ring loud like a klaxon the moment that system detected my
attempting to be rigorously honest. As it were, as soon as my PPA
became active, then MDE remained in force. But, I was determined to
unravel and defeat my own smoke and mirrors.
So, perhaps in the beginning, I thought this would be a smooth, easy,
process. Jee, all I needed to do was; identify, admit, and then
confess. And, of course, in the future don't commit the same offenses
again.
But, first I had to learn, that I have been a deceptive person. And by
my uttering the word, "deceptive" is the moment that self-revealing
truly began to occur for me. Bear in mind, that for me, MDE and my PPA
was a brute force to bargain with. They were designed to defeat
self-revealing.
Since my initiation of my self-revealing to both myself and Kathy, I
also learned that she was aware of the initial deception. So, we learn,
the deception continues as we continue to live the lie. By comparison,
lies are singular by definition. But, a single deception creates a
future illusion. So, until the deception is acknowledged and
self-revealing is accomplished, the deception will continue to fester
and hurt all parties who have been deceived; including myself who is
the deceiver.
Although, very painful and certainly not convenient, I assure you that
the freedom that comes from being self-revealing about deception,
outweighs any reservations about not wanting to unveil one's self.
Identification
People who are being self-revealing can be identified in a number of
ways:
A) you hear them revealing [in public] obvious improprieties
B) if you have spiritual maturity you will clearly recognize their
self-revealing
C) when you find yourself needing to be "more honest than usual"
A self-revealing person will appear to be very candid. An open book.
Some people use the expression, "...wear your heart on your sleeve".
But, do not confuse this with self-revealing. The heart worn on a
sleeve can be deceptive. Generally speaking, self-revealing people are
genuine. However, it is important to recognize that deception, like
HIV, does not LOOK a certain way.
Think about the logic for a moment. A heart on a sleeve. Why would it
be there? Oh I see. Because the heart is out in the open, that means it
is an honest heart. Or it means that the heart is self-revealing
because you can visually see it.
So to clarify — because deception has no particular "look"
and comes without warning, we cannot label deception as "safe" simply
because someone wears their heart on their sleeve. I can honestly
validate this because I had left no stone unturned creating ways to
stealth my deception.
Another method to identify self-revealing is to pay attention to how
many people you talk to each day who obviously are NEVER self-revealing
to you.
Trying to keep deception a secret is similar to the game "Hide
& Seek" in that, you hide and hopefully, you are not found,
right? But deception is much easier than hide and seek because you can
plant the deception and without any further maintenance on your part,
the deception lives on all by itself.
Of course, it goes without saying, the deception can also live on
because there are people who continue to believe the deception in the
first place.
Additionally, the deceiver themselves [which would be me] may very well
possibly not yet understand they have yet to be rigorously honest to
begin with. This too keeps the deception alive.
The
Purpose Of Knowing
Anytime we have a yearning to get closer to our most inner self we will
find ourselves having a "purpose of knowing". For me, I knew that my
deception had lived for many years as it continued to rip Kathy's heart
into pieces, let alone, shattering her most treasured dreams, which
again would be me.
Unless you are spiritually brain-dead, you want to know why. Here are
some examples of the purpose of knowing:
A) we are mortal humans and have hearts
B) we inherently do not wish to hurt others
C) each of us wants to know who we are
D) affords us additional freedom
Goals
And Expectations
When I first set out to do this workshop, I can readily say that my
only goal and expectation was to complete this process of
Self-Revealing.
It was less than 24 hours after my verbalizing the words "I have been
deceptive" that I began experiencing positive changes in my life.
Here are a few ideas that I have for those of you who are interested in
tackling a self-revealing workshop.
GOALS
+ wanting to reveal [deceptive] secrets you are holding onto
+ knowing you have a need to "come clean" about anything
+ having a desire to live life honestly without being prompted
[self-revealing]
EXPECTATIONS
+ no longer having a need to feel guilt
+ get on with life
+ successful amends
Plan
of Action
Continue living open and honest. Live self-revealing; a "mode" that I
consider to be, "in the now" and "obviously present tense" so that I
will never slip into any degree of deception, dishonesty or dismantling
of any truths. Of course, there may be temptation, but that is another
topic and another workshop. < grin >
Accelerated
Recovery Strategies
+ get in the habit of openly sharing - any time, any place, any person
+ take advantage of your resources whether they be a notepad or a blog
online
+ work with others and supply hope to them using your own testimony
Closing
Thoughts
This workshop has been a wonderful, creative and personal process. I
continue experiencing positive reactions from my new lifestyle of
self-revealing. Any person having the slightest doubt about entering
into a workshop such as this, do not hesitate. I assure you, the
benefits you will experience are much too great to write about here.
-- Harry J
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